OK, I’ve got two things to bitch about today.
#1, at the beginning of summer I had my girls make a list of things they wanted to do over the summer. There were things like go camping, have sleepovers, bbq, go to the beach and the all-comers races at the high school – you get the idea.
School starts Wednesday and Zeta was looking over the list (we’d written it on our chalkboard wall in the kitchen) this morning and started telling me the things we still need to do. There are 3 things and we are not going to do them all before Wednesday. It’s just not possible.
So she gets pissed at me. Um, sorry, we just won’t be going to the San Juan islands in the next couple days! Simmer. How about looking at that long list and seeing all the fabulous things we did do?!
Rant #2. Big Daddy enjoys spending time with his girls. He always has. Since the time Zeta was born, he has liked to take the girls with him on errands or on fun outings. He’s the one to take them to Chuck E. Cheese on his own. I would never do that. And he’s taken them to restaurants without me way more times than I’ve gone without him. He likes taking them to the library, concerts, movies, etc. He actually enjoys it, people!
But, I must have friends whose husbands don’t enjoy spending alone time with their kids. Or who won’t take them anywhere fun without their wife tagging along or who won’t just take them to run errands with them. Because a few of my friends will say things to Big Daddy when they run into him at some kid-centric outing. Like “Trish dumped the kids on you.” or “You got saddled with the girls.” I mean really. Is your husband that big of a dick that he thinks quality time with his kids is his getting saddled with them?
A few of these friends of mine will make little digs at me, too. I don’t know if they really think it’s a weird thing or a bad thing that he will do things with his kids without me or if they’re envious. Is it that unusual for a father to spend time with his kids without their mom?
Does your husband do things with your kids without you and without your asking him to?
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My husband does NOTHING with the kids; unless I beg, start a fight, etc. It is always obligatory. I’m the one taking them to Chuck E Cheese, on bikes rides, out to dinner, and even on out of town trips (by myself). However, I would never say anything like that to any other dad. The thought doesn’t even cross my mind. I’m always the one feeling sorry for myself (and my girls) that our Daddy is so removed.
I know I’m pretty lucky, but I don’t get the digs from friends. I know you would never give me or Big Daddy a dig, Renee!
youve got a keeper. no need to trade in at 40. nuthin better out there. (and he’s still cute!)
Warren and Cali do stuff together all the time! Of course, she loves it when he lets her drive
First of all, mama, Z needs to check herself before she wrecks herself re: the summer list! I tease, of course, but I think you’ve got 3 lucky girls who did WAY more than a lot of kids this summer. All I can remember from summer vacations from my youth was laying on the couch all day watching cartoons and then scrambling at 4:30 to do all the chores I was supposed to do before my mom got home at 5:00.
As for daddy time, I am uber lucky, too. John absolutely adores spending time with Olivia and has never once seen it as being saddled. I definitely know I’m lucky and don’t take it one bit for granted. As for your diggy friends? See above: check it before they wreck it!
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Yes, the Current Legal Spouse has always been hands-on and absolutely spends time with the kids/takes them places without me. They go to crappy movies, on bike rides and Chuck E. and leave me at home. I even take a yearly girl’s trip and he has the both kids for a long weekend by himself! If he didn’t, I would go postal on his ass. And I too have had friends that make comments, but those bitches are just jealous! Ha!
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That’s great he wants to and does spend so much time with them especially without any coaxing from you. I’d say those other moms are jealous. I know I am. We do things together but he rarely takes them by himself. It’s always you coming too. We need you. He whines and complains it’s hard. I’m like WTF you think I do everyday. Then, he’ll take them by himself and then we’re back to square one again.
Melisa. Z does need to check it before she wrecks it! My mom was a sahm mom and my summer memories are of me not being allowed in my house for several hours during the day. And that was fine with me! These kids today.
We are lucky girls, but I think it’s pretty sad that so many dads don’t feel the way our husbands do about spending time with their kids. And even sadder that the moms have to make snide remarks. How about you direct a little of that anger/bitterness toward the offending party?
Daddy/Daughter time is important! Jobe let’s Jemima sit on his lap and steer (only close to home)
You’re so right, Jen. I’m keeping him. And he seems to get better looking as he ages.
Rach, we’re lucky girls! I have left my hubs alone with the kids for a few days several times over the years. He’s never once complained. Bitches be jealous. What you gonna do?
Deneen, at least he takes them!
You already know the answer to this because when you all come here our hubbies take our kids and you and I lounge around!!
Our husbands are exceptional in that regard.
Like Big Daddy, Steve also takes the kids places without me way more than the other way around. I was out of town the last five nights…. he took them allover the place.
I can’t imagine taking them to lego land alone for example but he does alot.
And yes, friends dig at me about that too. Most are just happy and complimentary but some dig at me.
I think he figures he will have more fun without me around complaining…